Queer Coming Out Stories
Pansy St. Battie’s Coming Out Story
It's hard to shape my coming out as one thing. I've come out to myself, my family, my friends, the public. It's easy to reduce coming out to one defining moment, but it really is a process, an ongoing story. However, each of these steps is its own story, and coming...
Hawwaa Ibrahim’s Coming Out Story
When I was younger, I never really paid much attention to my attraction to other people. It wasn’t until I was older; 15 or 16, that I found a liking to girls. However, I never really gave it much thought. I had the mindset that if I had clear feelings for someone,...
Adder Burn’s Coming Out Story
Coming out is a simple concept. It’s a transition from “before everyone knew” to “after,” as quick and illuminating as stepping out of a shadow into the sunlight. Yet this concise, clear concept rarely takes shape in our lives without a jagged execution, messy...
Alysse Dalessandro Santiago’s Coming Out Story
I am a queer femme. I don’t fit the stereotypical “queer look.” As a result, I feel like I come out all of the time in a lot of ways. Passing as straight can come as a privilege, especially when traveling, but the erasure of constantly having to tell folks that I am...
Sara Elise’s Coming Out Story
I began my "coming out" process when I arrived to University, self-proclaiming that "I think girls are hot" after making out with one at a high school party. I began searching for women I felt attracted to and landed on much of the women's basketball team (lol),...
Jaiiy Moses’ Coming Out Story
When did you know you were gay? That question is so familiar yet broad. When does one know they are attracted to anyone let alone the same sex when they are merely a child? I recall having a “boyfriend” as young as kindergarten. Society romanticizing the...
Chandler Wilson’s Coming Out Story
As a little kid, I never realized that my experiences were different from the other kids because, quite frankly, no one ever noticed or told me they were.I am a nonbinary AFAB person which means that my gender identity is neither 100% male nor 100% female, and I was...
Allie Iverson’s Coming Out Story
When I was 15, I was struggling with depression and anxiety... (still am!) It got so bad that my mom put me in treatment. I was there for 6 months. I did a lot of learning there, and a lot of self-work. My main goal was just to be happy and feel like I could do life...
Liselle Savitri’s Coming Out Story
Coming out wasn’t as big of a deal as I thought it would be. To my friends and family, I feel like they already knew. I was never very feminine and growing up, I didn’t receive affection from boys well. I started out by telling my mother that I was...
Lazarus Letcher’s Coming Out Story
I've come out several times in my life - my identity continually unfolding as I continue to know and love myself and connect with like community. When I learned what being queer or gay was it had a negative connotation, and with a sinking feeling, I tried...