We spend weeks, months, even years trying to figure out what our sexuality is. To our knowledge, we’ve found 29 sexualities that individuals identify with. But, there could be even more out there & with an ever-growing community in years to come there could be double.
Sexuality labels help us identify and feel apart of a community. However, it’s a strong possibility that you identify with none of the labels below & I want to stress, this is okay. Labels are just a few letters stringed together, they don’t define you as a person. Please remember this if you’re searching to explain what you’re feeling & feel disappointment if none below are identifiable.
A-Z Lists of Sexualities – 2021 Edition
A
Abrosexual – Abrosexuality is described as an individual who experiences their sexuality change frequently. It can fluctuate between different sexualities often. – Definition: Urban Dictionary
Androgynosexual – An androgynosexual describes a person who is sexually attracted to men and women, particularly those of androgynous appearance. – Definition: AvenWiki
Androsexual – An androsexual is anyone who has sexual feelings towards masculinity. This term is usually used by gender-queer individuals who do not fall within heterosexuality or homosexuality. – Definition: AvenWiki & Openminded
Aromantic – A person who is aromantic does not experience romantic attraction. This person does not have to identify as asexual & they still may experience sensual & aesthetic attraction. – Definition: Urban Dictionary
Asexual – Asexual is the term used to describe a person who feels little to no sexual attraction to anyone – Definition: Spunout
B
Biromantic – A person who is romantically attracted to two sexes or genders. Biromantic asexuals seek romantic relationships for companionship, affection, and intimacy, but they are not sexually attracted to their romantic partners. – Definition: Urban Dictionary
Bisexuality – Bisexuals are sexually attracted to two or more genders – Definition: Wikipedia
C
Ceterosexual – Someone who experiences sexual/romantic attraction only to non-binary people. This label is used as a non-problematic term for skoliosexuality only to be used by non-binary people. – Definition: Tumblr
D
Demisexual – Demisexual refers to a person who doesn’t experience sexual attraction unless they form an emotional connection – Definition: AvenWiki
Demiromantic – This term is a type of grey-romantic who only experiences romantic attraction after developing an emotional connection. They do not experience primary romantic attraction, but are capable of secondary romantic attraction. – Definition: AvenWiki
F
Finsexual – The attraction to women, females and femininity – Definition: AminoApps
G
Gay – A person who identifies as homosexual. Definition: English Dictionary
Gynosexual – Anyone who has sexual feelings towards a woman or femininity. The term can be useful when describing the sexual orientation of an individual with a non-binary gender identity. – Definition: AvenWiki
Grey-Romantic – A grey-romantic is a person with a romantic orientation that is somewhere between aromantic & romantic. – Definition: Urban Dictionary
H
Heterosexual – A person sexually attracted to people of the opposite sex – Definition: Google
Homosexuality – A person sexually attracted to people of ones own sex. – Definition: Google
Heteroromantic – Romantically attracted to a member of the opposite sex or gender. They may seek romantic intimacy but they’re not sexually attracted to partners. – Definition: AvenWiki
Homoromantic – Romantically attracted to someone of the same sex or gender. They may seek romantic intimacy but they’re not sexually attracted to partners. – Definition: AvenWiki
L
Lesbian – A homosexual woman whose emotional, romantic and sexual feelings are towards women. – Definition: Urban Dictionary
O
Omnisexual – Omnisexuals are attracted to all genders,=. Gender can still be a factor in their attraction, unlike pansexuals, who don’t care about gender. – Definition: Urban Dictionary
P
Pansexuality –A person whose romantic and/or sexual attraction towards others is not limited by sex or gender.
Panromantic – Is a person that can be romantically attracted to all genders, but not sexually. – Definition: Urban Dictionary
Pomosexuality – Refers to non-orientation in which people disregard sexuality labels altogether. Basically, labels are seen as superficial and insignificant to someone who identities as pomosexual. – Definition: Urban Dictionary
Polysexual – Is the attract to some, but not all, genders. They may be attracted to any combination of possible genders, including binary & non-binary. – Definition: Urban Dictionary
Q
Queer – An LGBTQ+ term the community is reclaiming. An identity label that is non-specific about a persons sexual orientation. – Definition: Urban Dictionary
Questioning – To be unsure of or re-examining ones previous assumption of sexual orientation.
S
Straight – An heterosexual
Skoliosexual – The attraction to non-binary individuals. – Definition: Urban Dictionary
Sapiosexual – Sexually attracted to intelligence or the human mind – Definition: Wikitionary
And there we have it. Our 29 sexualities that we are aware of. If your sexuality hasn’t be shown or you know of a sexuality, let us know so we can spread the word & help others truly understand sexuality & how fluid it can or can’t be.
It’s important to know, even if you think it’s ridiculous and that sexuality can be only straight, gay, bisexual or whatever. There is a thing called respect & no matter how much you disagree, always be respectful & try educate yourself. This modern world is growing & with that you need to grow yourself alongside. Don’t be close-minded & allow yourself to learn, it’s the only way we can move forward together.
I have a few definitions that were included in here that should not have been in here:
Firstly, Sapiosexual doesn’t seem like it’s an ‘actual’ sexuality. If anything, it’s a preference that most people look for in a potential partner.
Secondly, Pomosexuality seems a little convoluted. It says it’s an identity for those who don’t want a label, yet it’s labelling them. Just thought I’d mention that.
Lastly, in regards to Finsexual, isn’t Gynesexual and Finsexual generally the same thing? I don’t personally see the difference but maybe someone else does?
My apologies for the slight negativity, but I felt these needed to be brought to attention. I hope this does not offend, as it was not meant to!
Hey! Thank you for your feedback & I really appreciate the comments. With sexuality, it’s all down to personal preference. This labels have individuals identifying with them in the hundreds. As you can see, we haven’t made them up, we’ve simply just put them in one place.
With any label, there will be flaws & it comes down to the question. Do we really need labels? But… If someone finds a sense of belonging and happiness within pomosexuality, or any others you listed. Can we really judge them when they finally feel at peace?
I totally understand your comments, but we have to understand that even if they seem confusing to us, to others it makes perfect sense & they finally feel at one with themselves!
Hey.. I keep switching sexualities from day to day, depending on my personality/mood. ( im bipolar and have personality disorders). I literally cannot like guys and girls at the same time its always one or another. But some days i like males more and some days i like females more. Some days i dont feel attracted to any genders. But usually, I like girls more unless the guy is bisexual. I know it sounds silly but I dont exactly know what this is.
Same tho! I’m confused as well! I could like females one day then fall inlove with a guy, then go back to females in 10 minutes. I personally don’t know what it is with me, and I wish I could find out ;-;
You guys are most likely Abrosexual!! I am questioning still… I hope you guys see this soon!!!
That would probably be abrosexual!
well you coul d be bisexual or pansexual but im sure you could find out with some research wish you best of luck
I get attached and detached to people very quickly and I hate the idea of sex but I also don’t it very confusing
you may be sexuality fluid Abrosexual This terms refers to the fact that sexuality, sexual attraction, and sexual behavior can change over time and be dependent on the situation.
That sounds like you’re Abrosexual, the first one on the list. Hope this helps! x
I thought I was the only one I like females, and males that identify as bisexual but to be honest being sexually actively kind of grosses me out but I feel like if I truly care about that person then who knows.
you could be biromantic 🙂
Perhaps you are Demisexual and biromantic? I identify as Asexual and Biromantic and would not like to have intercourse.
I’m biromantic demi-sexual and feel exactly how you feel!
You might be demisexual
It could be like your own version of pansexual, like idrk but your brain could still be figuring out who and what sexuality you are
You might be abrosexual
There is Abrosexual which is like genderfluid except with sexuality!
I think I’m asexual, I’m really young, can asexual people fall in love?
Could be abrosexual (the first one listed.) But some people just like to identify as queer!
You may be Abrosexual. That means your sexuality changes over time. It seems most likely.
You’re probably abrosexual! The best way I can describe this sexuality is like the genderfluid of sexuality. It changes from day to day.
I’m not rlly sure either, but i think that’s abrosexual!
Sounds kind of like omniancepomo! (Idk if I spelled that right)
If your sexuality changes very often, Then you may be Abrosexual. I’m abrosexual myself. it means your sexuality is fluid. hope that helps!
Abrosexual?
You might be abrosexual it means your sexuality fluctuates
That’s abrosexual! Your sexuality fluctuates. It’s like gender fluid but for sexualities!
I don’t know what that it is exactly but it sounds like it could be “Sexual fluidity”, “The ability of sexual feelings to change over time.” -Google
Bi
I’d say Abrosexual but since you are attracted to females more often it may be something else
Abrosexual! It is when somebody’s sexualality changes very often, and is never the same for very long 🙂
Hey so to my understanding it means that you’re fluid so one day you like guys and then maybe the next day or week or whatever you’re attracted to girls or whatever gender you prefer.
You could be abrosexual! I believe it means that your sexuality changes from time to time much like genderfluid people just with your sexuality
hey i really need help working out my feelings Im really confused one second i think like a man and a woman the next i think its stupid. I am attracted to women men some times but i feel really sexy when i act and flirt like a woman i dont know if this a sexuality or if I just made it up any support would help more than you could know xx
Would abrosexual work for you??? You don’t have to label it either. If someone asks you can either say you aren’t straight or your queer. It’s all a preference though so do what feels right.
you could be queer. the definition here isn’t the best but a better summed up definition of queer is having no single way explain who you’re attracted to, you could like girls, than guys switching whenever you want. you could identify as queer but you could also be like ‘im queer but i am attracted to (insert gender identity) right now’
Yes, You can keep changing till you feel like “Yes this is the me I was looking for”
I would like to say that there is a sexuality for this and it is considered being abrosexual. Your sexuality can change at any time of day or even every day, week, month, year, etc. <3
You are most likely Abrosexual (Abrosexual refers to an individual whose sexuality is changing or fluid. For example, someone could be gay one day, then be asexual the next, then polysexual the next.)
Abrowsexual
Basset off your description, I think you mean Abrosexual
Abrosexual: An individual that has a fluid and/or rapidly changing sexuality that fluctuates between different sexualities. Affirmed gender: The gender by which one wishes to be known.
A person who is abrosexual may also have changes in their sexual orientation over time. For example, a person who is abrosexual might be sexually attracted to men at one point, then not sexually attracted to anyone weeks later. Someone who is abrosexual may have periods of different intensities of attraction.
( https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-abrosexual https://www.portlandoregon.gov/article/730061)
Think of gender fluidity but for sexuality not gender!
Hey so two sexualities I realized weren’t on here were Trexic- when a non-binary person is attracted to females/girls
And Toric – when a non-binary person is attracted to males/men
Though I suggest looking more into it for better explanations, just thought I’d say this though, also what your doing here is great <3
Thank you for this I was looking for a name for my sexuality
I noticed that too! I’ve identified as trixic (as I’m non-binary and have a girlfriend) for a while now. I came onto this website to learn more about sexualities, but I’ve noticed so many are missing (I don’t mean this negatively).
It’s called abrosexual and it’s kind of like if gender fluid was a sexuality. It means your sexuality can change over time, whether that’s a day, year, month, week. Hope this helps!
sounds like abrosexual! it’s like gender fluid but with sexuality instead of gender
Hi it’s called abrosexual it’s where ur sexuality is fluid!
You could simply have a fluid sexuality, as in abrosexual. And it’s not silly at all: if it’s how you identify, it’s valid, and everyone shout respect that!
i can’t remember at the moment but there’s a type of person who’s sexuality changes day to day, or week to week etc… that may be what you are!
Hello! i may know what you are! c: You are maby abrosexual. That means thet you switches sexualities everydy or just very often! I hope this helps you! ( just so you know, i can be wrong but it’s just my guess :D)
Hii!! I was just Reading ur comment and i Think i know ur sexuality, I think ur abrosexual, when u are abro u change ur sexuality all of the time and is never happy with it but when u find out it’s a sexuality to change ur sexuality “if that makes sense?” U start to understand it 🙂 hope it helped
I’m pretty sure that’s abrosexual
Most likely abrosexual or abroromantic (your attraction to different genders changes) which is what i currently identify as (omniromantic abrosexual), what these labels mean to me is that i’m always attracted to every gender but sometimes i prefer girls and sometimes guys 🙂
If your attraction fluctuates ( between gender and/or intensity ), it’s termed abrosexual/abroromantic 🙂
I mean from that description you might be abrosexual, but I would look into it and see what applies for you 🙂
That sounds like abrosexuality. That means your sexuality fluidly changes.
That may be abrosexual. I recently started identifying with it, it means your sexuality fluctuate day to day. One day you may be attracted to both genders, the next all genders, then the next you may be asexual. I was confused for years why my sexuality changed so often and I found this term and it made me feel a lot better. (also the flag looks like a water melon)
Is there a sexuality where I am romantically attracted to females, and bisexual males and only sexually attracted to a partner
you could be biromatic and omnisexual
I’m confused l like women and men it depends on there personality but I typically lean towards women and I am seaxually attracted
biromantic demisexual?
Biromantic demisexual
that sounds like demisexual if you are only sexually attracted to your partner
Your probably biromantic personally I am bi but I am also you young so I don’t really know if I am bi or not yet yk
Is it possible to not feel romantically or sexually attracted to anyone or am I just going crazy
I feel the same way and identify as asexual and aromantic!
I feel pretty much the same, l do feel a bit of attraction , but only with a specific person , l like touch but am not really bothered by sex (been celibate for over 10 years). So l think basically aromantic sums me up
I think that just means you’re aromantic and asexual
Sounds like you’re aromantic and asexual (aroace for short) 🙂
No, I feel the same. That’s asexual and aromantic!
yes of course! i’m a demisexual, which is on the asexual spectrum. an asexual person doesn’t have sexual thoughts or inclinations, and a demisexual only gets them once we know a little more 🙂
as for romantically i’m not sure, but i think there’s one (i can’t remember i’m sorry) but a good person who could help is Zoe Stroller, and they’re on tik tok and pinterest and have little videos on all this stuff!
Abrosexuality 🙂
I miss anisosexual (homoflexible) and elasexual (heteroflexible) in the list. They both mean that the people identifying as those are basically gay or hetero, but sometimes feel attracted to the other gender.
there is also trixic which is a sexuality for non-bianry people who are atracted to women
Hey hey, I have a question. I’m only sexually attracted too men but I only have Romantic feelings for woman. Is this anything?
Depending on if you are a make or female, that would be heteroromantic homosexual or homoromantic heterosexual
I can’t find mine I’m animesexual and it isn’t on here
its because most people find being animesexual being very disrespectfull to the LGBTQ+ community because anime characters are not a gender or a group of people etc, as its the same as being dreamsexual or charlisexual
that isen’t real that’s stupid
According To Grammarly most of the sexualities don’t have definitions thus the one whom don’t have a definition are not in the dictionary and there for aren’t real words thus proving you made some up
So, I have never been sexually attracted to anyone, only romantically. I am attracted to all genders, but I’ve never been sexually attracted. Does anyone know what this means? Thanks!
I get attached and detached to people very quick and I hate the idea of sex, but I also love affection and I want to have a sexual relationship, but I hate sex I also am already abrosexual whoever this never changes when my sexuality does.
Sapiosexual should be included. It’s an official sexuality so it’s on the list for a reason.
Autosexual should be added too. It’s when someone is sexually attracted to themselves. Sounds kinda odd but it’s an actual thing and I think it should be recognized.
Thanks
I agree, it should be there
What if I’m both autosexual and straight ? Is there a term for that ?
You could be autosexual while being hetromantic. :)))
Finsexual is just being attracted to women/femininity. Gynesexual is being romantically and sexually attracted
to specifically women.
My best friend is Sapiosexual and the reason it’s a sexuality is because unless there is an intellectual bond he can not have physical attraction. I am bisexual who prefers my partners to be intelligent but I can still have pleasure with someone who doesn’t fit that preference.
Hey! This was so helpful x so would omni have preferences? and I don’t quite understand the difference between bi and omni. Sorry if I offended anyone, I’m just slightly stupid lol
I’m so confused… Some days I can only be attracted to women and other men and women but some other days I really don’t care about the gender but more of personality and through all of that I don’t find sexual attraction to any of them ughhh
It sounds like abroromantic asexual. You fluctuate in who you’re romantically attracted to, but you don’t experience sexual attraction
Bi is attraction to any 2 gender. Omni is to all gender, but they care what their gender is. Pan is ‘I don’ t care whatever gender you have’. Omni is ‘I care what your gender is, but I don’ t have any problem with it, I like them all.’ Hope this helps. Don’ t call urself stupid, u want to learn and that’s amazing!!
Um hey I’m sorry but as a bisexual being I would just like to say that being bi doesn’t mean you only like 2 genders it liking both SEXS and any gender identity
Hi! So basically (from my research) bisexual means attraction to your own gender and another, and omnisexual (which I identify as) means attraction to all genders but with a preference!
For the difference between bi and omni, you first need to understand that there are more genders than male and female (the binary system), but for example demigirl/demiboy, non binary and so on. So, bisexuality would mean you are attracted to two genders (I would say it isn’t important if your own gender is one of them, but I guess everyone defines these terms slightly different). Omnisexual means that you are attracted to all genders, but differently. So you kinda care about the gender, but you like all (as opposed to pansexuals, who just don’t care about genders and can be attracted to everyone)
Bisexual is two genders (male and female), whereas omnisexual is all the genders.
hi! this is in no way offensive! so basically bisexuality is generally just attraction to men and women, though it doesn’t have to be equal, like 70% liking men, and vice versa. technically it’s two or more genders, but most people don’t see it that way.
omnisexual is liking ALL genders, but having one preference over the others.
and in case- there’s also polysexual which means you feel attracted to many but not all genders, and you can pick and choose which ones. and you can have a preference as well
In gynesexual you are attracted to femininity while in sexual is attracted to women, females, and femininity. Not all women are are feminine, so any gynsexual person would only be attracted to feminine ladies, while finsexual is attracted to any lady. 🙂
Hi I’m wondering how long it takes to figure out your sexuality because I’ve been questioning that for a while now and every time I discover a label that fits me I suddenly change my mind on it! I don’t think I’m Pomosexual because I do want a label. Please help.😢
Hey Lottie, it takes as long as it takes, some people only discover their true sexuality when they have been grown up for quite some time. But (at least to me) labels aren’t that important, they just help you describe and find out about your feelings. I also questioned my sexuality for a few years until I realized that I don’t really need a label. I just wait and see who I fall in love with and that makes my life even more exciting. I am still changing the words I would describe my sexuality with quite often, but it doesn’t bother me as much as it used to. If you really want to fit into a label, just try to take your time to find out what you really feel.
Hey Ghost, Sapiosexual is an actual sexuality because ppl who identify as such don’t get sexually attracted to people until they’ve discovered/seen their intelligence. Finsexual and Gynosexual are very similar with the exception that gynosexual people can be attracted to people who dont identify as women.
Yeah, they also left out Akiosexual/Lithosexual which is someone who may experience sexual attraction but doesn’t want to have a sexual relationship with someone.
These sexuality’s are right and just because you don’t think there sexuality’s doesn’t mean they aren’t and I’m not trying to be mean or anything but they are real sexualitys
It’s not up to you who identifies a’s what it what identities are valid. It’s not affecting you. The identity is about the person identifying that way and it’s no one else’s business why they chose it or what it is.
The real problem in the community are the exclusionist, such as yourself.
Figure out the difference between orientation and preferences, it’s fairly obvious, and actually look into things before posting rude comments.
Can I be a poly sexual gynosexual…..I don’t remember if that’s how it’s spelt but ya?
ya lets stop with these your straight with a fucked up mind!:)
yeah lets stop the hate you’re homophobic as hell!!!! 🙂
hi im a bit confused at what my sexuality would be, basically im really attracted to females so i was like im lesbian but like im also attracted to non binary people but they have to have been born as a female and i like transgender girls to(sorry if thats the wrong name for them) and like im attracted to like 3 fictional guy characters but i would never date a guy or do anything with them and then sometimes im not attracted to females until i get close with them , im confused what i am
I’m pretty sure your gynosexual, that’s when your attracted to femininity. I think it’s on this list somewhere and you could always read more about it.
i like what you said and agree
Where Is T? Trixic For Nonbinary People Attracted To Women
Finsexual isnt alwas a sexual connection like how Gynesexual is but he rest is right
Hey, I was wondering, could you add demipansexual? It is basically a mix of Demisexual and pansexual. I am Demipansexual personally.. so.. if it’s okay, can u plz add it?
Gynesexual and Finsexual are a little different. Gynesexual is attracted to females/ femininity as well as with someone Identifying with Non-binary gender Identity. As someone who does Identify as a gender outside of the binary and were attracted to females/ femininity I might use Gynesexual vs. Finesxual but that is just me but…
Hey, so i understand u 🙂 im sure theres alot of others who might not know the difference between Finsexual and Gynosexual, buuut i know. Soo Finsexuals, dont care what gender they are or what the person theyre attracted to identify as, like they dont care what genitals someone has, they are just attracted to ones femininity no matter the gender/what they identify as. Gynosexuals do care, so like they’d prefer femininity in only females. Im not good at explaning things sorry lmao, but hope this answered ur question, have a good day <3
I’m not sure how I identify. I feel like I’m mostly straight and attracted to males, but I kinda find females attractive too. I want to have a sexual and romantic relationship with a man, but with women I don’t want a relationship beyond friendship. I just find women attractive and sometimes think sexual thoughts about them, but don’t want to actually do this kind of stuff with females. Any idea what label I could have? I know that a label doesn’t define you, but I really want to be able to say “I identify as a/an (insert label name)” Thank you so much x
i am confused on my gender one day i think im non binary and the other day i think im genderfluid and the other days im agender like i dont know what my pronouns are i need help
Hello, Sapiosexuality is a real thing. Thousands of people identify with it, and it isn’t sexual attraction based on looks, which differs from many other identities. Please don’t try to say people’s experience or identity is “not a real thing”. It is like if people said Lesbian is just a preference or Pansexual is just a type of Bisexual.
That’s what I was thinking about as well, also this list doesn’t cover all of the Lgbt community, it would be better if they had all the definitions and said that gyro or finsexual was for likeing general femininity and the other one was for femininity only in the non-binary, I’m still waiting for the sexuality that says only people you like is femboys (I know a lot of other drag-queens like women but as well they like other drag-queens while not likeing men or any other other non-binary gender, I also know a lot of drag-queens like ONLY other drag-queens(same w/ drag-kings)) probably a gyro/finsexual+skoliosexual subcategory, I would fall into the catogory of likeing only drag-queens at times (i’m fluid) still waiting to correct the graph of what sexualities most femboys have (the most popular graph only shows that more drag-queens are straight rather than gay (most like other drag-queens only) so I’ll wait
Really agree with your point on sapiosexuality
I’m actually unlabeled – like being pomosexual but we reject the entire concept of labels (as pomosexual is essentially a label)
I too have a word to say on one of the definitions. As far as I’m aware, Androsexuality can also be an attraction to masculinity, not simply males?
Hello! Thank you so much for pointing that out to us, you’re completely right & I thought I had this as the definition. Thank you!
Hi, I was just wondering if you could add another definition to Polysexual? If possible please could you add that it can mean feeling different amounts of attraction for different genders and thaw attraction to different genders in different ways. I think a big part of having terms is that we respect someone’s definition might be different to another’s.
You missed one out with is grey-asexual. Where you are sexually attracted to people you have a personal connection with but not to everyone. My friend is like this so just thought to let you know 🙂
Thank you for letting us know! We’ll be sure to add it in 🙂
The Unite UK Team
Um yea hey I just wanted to say that you don’t add polyamory aka polyamorous ppl to the list and I’m a little confused too because I thought polysexual was the sexual way of polyam were if your polysexual you desire multiple sexual relationships. I just wanted to say this because this is an official list that ppl will see and polyam ppl tend not to be acknowledged as a part of the community
Hey! I’m polysexual so I thought I could add my 2 cents here.
Polysexuallity has nothing to do with polyamory – that association is just an biproduct of the English language. The definition they provided here for polysexual is accurate to how i identify.
Furthermore, I don’t think polyamory belongs on a list of sexualities. You can be polyam or monog and still identify with anything on this list. While monog and polyam are useful identifiers, they aren’t sexualities in and of themselves.
However, I do want to say that your criticism that polyam folks are frequently left out of LGBTQIA+ discussions is totally valid. In this case, I think a paragraph or two defining polyamory and monogamy and explaining how they are different from but associated with sexualities would have been helpful. If this had been a broader list of LGBTQIA+ terms rather than just sexualities, then I completely agree that polyamory and monogamy should have been included.
Actually grey is where a person experiences sexual attraction rarely or in specific situations and circumstances. Their sexual drive and attraction comes and goes. I think your friend maybe referring to Demisexual where you only experience sexual attraction after an emotional bound has been made. I have two friends who are these and I’ve researched a lot to discover my own sexuality so I just wanted to inform you <3
I’m sorry but a lot of these sexualities make no sense or can be condensed to being pansexual. I don’t get why people need to make 3-5 words that mean the same thing. Is it just to feel special? I’ve read the other comments here and I’m sorry but just because it makes sense to a handful of people doesn’t mean it actually makes sense.
Hi Mikey,
I see your point a view, why do we need a few letters to feel apart of a community. But that’s the main point, our labels give us a sense of identity which we find hard to find.
You’re actually missing the point of what I’m saying. I understand someone that is gay, bisexual, etc. My issue is with people that claim to be omnisexual and other made up sexualities. Just because you like masculine partners does not mean you have a whole new sexuality, it means you like masculine men, women, and or trans people. Most of these sexualities do nothing but make things more confusing. Adding all these sexualities is just pure nonsense
The reason why there’s so many is because some people don’t just fall into one category. They could be bi but doesn’t like doing anything sexual related, so they became biromantic or stay bi and biromantic, there are more sexualities because some people don’t fall into the category so there is more so they can finally be identified.
What are you considered if you like men (I’m a girl), BUT you wouldn’t mind dating someone who is transgender man (girl born person who is now a man)
Exactly! I identify as a lesbian, but the thing that sstarts with F here says attraction to females and femininity, which is basically a lesbian?
not necessarily. a person who is gynosexual (attraction to femininity) does not make them a lesbian. men/women who are gynosexual can be attracted to feminine men, women, or non-binaries. gender doesn’t matter, as long as they are feminine; then they have an attraction to that person. so no, they are not necessarily straight/lesbian.
fin sexuality doesn’t exactly mean a lesbian for it could be also be used for almost any other gender that has an attraction to females and femininity and i don’t think you know exactly how it’s used for your example if a lesbian is also a fin sexual it would mean being attracted to the females and femininity and not be attracted to females who are masculine
Well, I wouldn’t fit into any of the lesbian, bi or pansexual categories. I’m someone who would be classed as grey-romantic – I’m somewhere between asexual and aromantic. I don’t fit into any of those categories, and some people who also don’t either would like a label anyway. It gives us a sense of identity.
Kinda same, I might be bi, but for now I’m not labeling my sexuality. I have only told my best friend and she was super confused. For a minute though I thought I was straight again, but got a crush on a girl from my camp. Life is so hard lol
Well, judgmental is never a good look or “category” to be in, regardless of one’s sexuality. If it’s not hurting anyone, and people who’ve otherwise felt alone, wierd, or didn’t know where or how they fit in the world, suddenly find the list above and for the first time in there lives can see a bit of themselves represented, Well that’s something others, especially those like me who lost a friend to suicide over their sexuality, can take joy in, not anger. If those inclusive descriptions above help even one person feel like it’s not just them, that they are included and seen and not just a wierdo no one around them seems to understand, and after reading it they maybe decide not to jump off the roof of that building they walk by everyday, that seems much more important than the outright hostility and over reactive rage some might display at what they callously and carelessly label “confusing nonsense”. It may not matter to you, and that’s fine. You seem pretty self satisfied and don’t seem to really need the list above, or any list, to figure out anything about you. You seem like you believe you’ve got it all figured out and squared away. So the importance of the list above really doesn’t apply to you anyway. But it may matter to someone else who never knew they weren’t alone, that they weren’t just an anomaly that something is f’d up with, that something is wrong with them and who they are; and for some having a recognized identifier, maybe for the first time ever in their lives, can sometimes make all the difference in the world to that person. It may even change, or save, their lives for the better. And that is BETTER AND MORE IMPORTANT THAN WHETHER OR NOT SOME OTHERS FIND IT TO BE NONSENSE. Remember, it’s never to late to learn to have empathy for others, even, AND ESPECIALLY, when you don’t understand why they feel or think the way they do. And never to late to recognize that maybe you don’t have to get it, to appreciate the fact that someone else might need it. Take care. Thanks for your time.
just so you know what your saying could be seen as harmful at least or homophobic at most! Also technically ALL sexualities are made up so… yeah. So mikey, i recommend doing research before you argue about labels that dont harm you <3
Hi umm can you add anEsexual too I feel bad my sexualuty is not here 🙂
Hey! What is the definition of your sexuality! We’ll get it added x
Anesexual is a desire or the love of fictional characters or anime characterd
I’m Withey Mikey on this point! Mice one Mikey it’s a relief to know I’m not alone in my confusion about this subject
Hi so i usually feel an attraction to both genders and i identify as bisexual but i don’t desire to have a intimate and sexual with either so uh i don’t know what i am.
Hey! Biromantic – A person who is romantically attracted to two sexes or genders. Biromantic asexuals seek romantic relationships for companionship, affection, and intimacy, but they are not sexually attracted to their romantic partners. – Definition: Urban Dictionary
Does this sound right to you?
You may be Biromantic Asexual! Which means you’re interested in both genders but you aren’t into any sexual relationships. Hope this helps!
make one then you can its allowed well lets call it anti-biromantic
I know that I’m a lesbian but I’m confused about my sex life because I have sexual feelings but I don’t like to be touched or touch myself. I only touch them.
You’re a biromantic asexual or a biromantic bisexual I think…
Hey, so I’m really confused about my sexuality because I identify as bisexual but I’m honestly more attracted to women than to men and I also feel that I’m open to dating someone from any gender, but still I’m more attracted to women. I think this is very confusing and I don’t know how to feel about it. I hope what I just said made sense. Thankss
People misunderstand what bisexuality is. Being bisexual doesn’t mean that you’re fifty percent attracted to men/masculine people and fifty percent attracted to women/feminine people, and it’s actually possible to be attracted to men and non-binary people or women and genderqueer people, or, even that you’re able to have sexual attractions to all sexes and/or genders. If you feel sexual attractions towards two or more sexes and/or genders, then you’re still bisexual, even if you lean more closely towards one sex/gender than any other. But, as another way of looking at it, it’s also entirely possible that you’re either bisexual and homoromantic or homosexual and biromantic depending on the attractions you have towards others and towards women, if one is sexual and the other romantic, or a mix of both all around. Only you know how you feel and the attractions you experience, and figuring out our sexualities doesn’t happen over night.
I was eight when I knew I wasn’t like other kids when it came to relationships. I was twelve when I thought I was the worst gay person ever. I was seventeen when I discovered bisexuality. I was older still when I figured out pansexual could also work for me, but bisexual meant the same to me and more because it was home, and also that my gender issues didn’t make me a tomboy, but non-binary. Knowing the label names to how we feel and experience these things helps, but it doesn’t answer the questions, only time and experience can do that, and eventually you’ll get there.
Hi, I think you !right be absentia it means you I like everyone regardless of their sexuality. I hope this helps .
hey! you could be Omnisexual – someone who is attracted to all genders but has a prefence
There are lots of times in witch people feel more attracted to Both genders, but like one more. Your bisexual but like girls more, I think. Makes sense to mean.
So if you are attracted to every gender but have a preference that means you’re omnisexual. But in this specific scenario (I assume that you’re a woman) it would mean that you’re homoflexible/anisosexual. That’s a really specific term for a form of omnisexuality. But it kina helped me to find that term because it felt a lot more fitting than every other term.
Hey I’m bisexual, so I’m into both genders. But I don’t really like the idea of sex and that stuff, so what does that make me?
Hi, have you ever looked at biromantic? This sounds similar to what you’re describing 🙂
I don’t know what I identify as because i find both sexes attractive but only have romantic interest in one person. Someone please explain for me.
Sounds a lot like pansexuality to me. It’s a term and way of being that can be difficult to explain, but I’ll attempt it from the perspective of what it means to me, someone who identifies as pansexual. Pansexuality not about the attraction to one gender, or dependent on whether someone is non-binary or transgendered or androgynous or queer. Or even race or height or hair color for that matter. In fact romantic attraction to another person is not about how they look on the outside at all. It’s all about attraction, romantic feelings and sexual attraction to the actual individual person, regardless of gender. And the romantic attraction and sexual attraction happens because of who they are as a human being (their personality, their likes and dislikes, their taste, their love of animals, their intelligence, their kindness, their heart, how they treat others, their humor etc.) and not what gender they are. Also pansexuals generally don’t have a physical “type” that they always go for. It’s mostly about what kind of person they are that initially turns a pansexual on, and romantically attracts you to them, not so much the sex that they identify as. It doesn’t mean you don’t find them physically attractive or like their style or eyes or body etc. It just means you are attracted to who a person is, the whole package, and it’s not about gender or sexual orientation at all. It’s rooted in a very existential way of thinking and feeling. A kind of elevated emotional intelligence. You may also still identify as pansexual even if it just so happens that all the people you’ve ever fallen in love with so far were of one gender, or even if it’s just one person that’s ever sparked romantic feelings in you. Because a pansexual would have fallen in love with all those same people regardless of whether they happened to be a different sex or identify as a different sex. Because to a pansexual, that would make no difference or even factor into it at all. If this sounds like you, you are most likely a pansexual. And because it’s only one person you’ve ever had romantic feelings for, despite finding both sexes attractive, you sound like a pansexual monogamist. Just like me!! I was married to a man before. A friend I knew for years and we grew up together. Now I’m engaged to a woman. And neither time did gender identity have anything to do with the romantic feelings or sexual attraction I felt for either of them. It was all about who they are as people. Hope this helps ❤️
Um hey. So I took the quiz and got pan, but here’s my problem: I’ve never had crush on anyone before. But that’s not to say I don’t find people attractive, because I do. It’s not like I don’t want love though, because I desperately do. What does that mean?
Hey! So our quiz isn’t 100% and considering you’ve got pansexuality in our quiz, I would say look at demisexuality. It may describe some of the things you’re feeling? Let me know!
im exactly the same! its so great to find someone the same as me! Im so confused. stay strong xx
Hi – you’ve missed a couple that I could see.
semisexual: a semisexual is for all intensive purposes sexual, but they have no desire to act on that attraction. http://demigrace.forumotion.com/t108-i-need-help-figuring-out-a-definition-for-semisexuality
grey-asexual/grey-ace: http://wiki.asexuality.org/Gray-A/Grey-A
Thank you dan!
Hi, I have always classified as heterosexual. But I have not been sexually attracted to either gender. Not for companionship, romance just not at all. What would that classify me as?
You might be a part of the asexual label
Asexual dear.
So I figured this would be a good place to vent. I identify as asexual and aromatic. But I feel like we aren’t part of the LGBTQA+ community. Because we have a lack of attraction. Sure I can admire someone and think they’re attractive, but have no sexual or romantic feelings. And I think this separates us. We aren’t straight, but we aren’t lgbt either. When someone thinks of queer, ace usually isn’t something that comes to mind. I know that the homosexuals and bisexuals and pansexuals and transgenders get discriminated more, but we are simply ignored. Maybe it’s just me, but that’s what I think.
Hey, drop us a line on uniteuk1@gmail.com & we maybe can work together that hopefully helps bring exposure to the ace community!
Hi, I’m attracted to all genders (I’m pretty sure with the fact that I find females attractive in a specific way I’ve never felt a real romantic or sexual attraction I think though but I’ve never been attracted to someone not on the binary label but I’m not opposed to the idea) I’ve only wanted to have a romantic / sexual relationship with males but I don’t feel comfortable with the gay/pansexual/omnisexual/queer/Abrosexual label, could you help me? I already took your quiz and it didn’t help much (I got queer the first time and pan the second)
Hey!
If you drop us an email on uniteuk1@gmail.com – We’ll help you out x
i uhm.
i’m mostly attracted to men but i’m also attracted to drag queens-
i’m female though and this is just really confusing me that nobody else feels this way-
like it’s not on any lists or anything so i feel like an alien to all you other guys
I’m pansexual. I’m engaged to a wonderful woman. I used to be married to a man. BUT I find drag queens very attractive. My fiancé and I love to go to the drag shows and we have a blast. The queens adore us right back. We are usually the only female couple in the whole place too 🤣 There is one club we’ve gone to many times called The Blue Moon in Rehoboth Beach, DE. And their is one drag performer who is one of the MC’s there. Her name is Miss Visa Decline. She is so amazing. She knows us by now too. When we walk in she always says “gird your loins ladies, the REAL men JUST walked in” and then she starts going “kiss kiss kiss kiss!” and all the guys join in and when we kiss they go BALLISTIC. 😂 omg she is fabulous, beautiful, and has a very sarcastic acerbic wit, so funny. I just love her and am really attracted to her-you know us pans😂❤️ So you are not alone in your queen attraction. I understand how it can happen! 👍
i think its because people like us still live in the closet. i had no idea it was a recognized thing. ive felt like a weirdo my entire life and forced myself to behave like everyone else, hating it. i have an attraction to men but its not sexual or romantic,i just prefer their company. though i would get turned on, it was purely a physiological pheromone response, it made me cranky bc it was annoying and i didnt want the sex or the feeling. its like not wanting to have an orgasm but having one anyway bc of body manipulation. there has only ever been one person ive ever wanted sex or romance with. i fell in love with him and married him. bc of how i am, the orgasm was a nuisanse. i had to get past it so i could enjoy the true spiritual coupling i had with him.
the good news is, if you find someone you love and who treats you well, its all going to hit you deeply. it takes something different to stir your soul and the power it has is intoxicating and the love is true bc you dont fall into infatuation or lust and the sex is this amazing thing tht has nothing to do with the physical. the whole experience is transcendent.
youll never desire it until you find it and youll never want or accept anyone else. youre a one mate person.
iappreciate seeing your post, ive never come across anyone else like me.
I completely agree with this. There is so much aroace erasure that we just end up living in a “glass closet” because no one knows who/what we are. In their minds we are either straight or non-existent. Especially now during ace awareness week I have realised how many of my own friends never even knew that label existed. (I personally identify as asexual and panromantic)
This is such an amazing site! I have a question though, I am a woman attracted to women and non binary people, is there a name for this?
I think you might be bisexual. I identify as bisexual and I am attracted to women and non-binary people. A lot of people think being bisexual is being attracted to men and women, but it just means being attracted to two genders. Hope this helps.
Hello there!
Sexuality is refers to your gender and the gender you feel attracted to and with sapiosexual you make it seem as if your gender is not a part of sexuality witch it is. There is also a lot of micro labeling I see going on in this. I don’t not want to come off as hateful and I am so sorry if I do.
I identify as demiromatic, but I don’t really know what to “label” my sexuality. I’m mainly attracted to men, but occasionally I’m attracted to women, nonbinary, and trans people.
I’d say you are either pan, poly, or omni.First thing to figure out is if there are any genders you wouldn’t be attracted to. If there are, then you would be poly. If not, then see if gender matters to you. If it does, you’re probably omni. If not, you’re probably pan. Sorry for not adding sexual or romantic at the end of bi/poly/pan/omni, I just wasn’t sure which one you wanted to add on the end. You can identify as bi/poly/pan/omni and also have a preference towards one gender.
i found this article very nice and full of information thank you for in lighting us!
Thank you!
Can you be asexual and straight at the same time? Like I like the opposite gender but not sexually, only romantically. Is there a name for that?
Hi! I believe that’s called a heteromantic asexual, you may fit under that label. Hope this helps if you haven’t figured it out already!
I believe you missed a sexuality called Grey-asexual, which is similar to asexual but instead of not feelings sexual attraction at all, they experience it rarely.
Or maybe you didnt miss it and im just clumsy–
This is the only list I’ve found that includes abrosexuality – thank you 😍
You’re welcome! I’m glad you’ve found some representation on our site!
there’s also akoisexual/romantic or previously called lithsexual/romantic it’s part of the asexuality spectrum and there’s a ton of sub-labels people use for asexuality too! 🙂
Is there a sexuality for “attracted to women romantically/emotionally, but only sexually attracted after getting to know them a bit, and not really attracted to looks, but attracted to personality”? Because that would be me.
Hey! This sounds like demisexual 🙂 You can identify within that label and within the lesbian label as well. So Demi Lesbian!
Hello thanks a lot
This realy help me
I am in a battel whit myself over what i am
I am a 12 year old girl in a very accepting school but i don’t now about my parents i have a pan andere BI friends how help me a lot and in the Nederlands (where i life ) there is purple Friday at least at me school and i am thinking tot do a speets where i come out and i now am on a path tot a sexualiti so thanks and happy Pride month everyone
hi so i feel like i like everyone but i don’t feel sexual attraction until i get to know them (im not super sure ive never have a crush before)
You may be demisexual? Have a look at the definition of that label 🙂
Hi,
So I am the opposite of demisexual (I only feel sexual attraction for people I don’t really know). Is there a word for this?
Yes, it’s called fraysexual. It’s when your attraction to someone fades when you meet them or get to know them.
btw Bobette, you sent that reply on my birthday!! lol!!
I don’t really know my sexuality because I’m attracted to mainly women, with sometimes non-binary, agender people, and men (and others) which sounds like pansexuality but I have a preference based on gender. I don’t know if I’m bisexual or pansexual.
Firstly, try not to worry about what’s going on. This doesn’t define you as a person & it’s important to know your sexuality won’t change you. We’re not experts, but bisexuality is the attraction to one or more genders so you may feel more comfort within this label. Pansexuality and bisexuality overlap and it’s okay to feel somewhere in the middle x
This would probably fit under omnisexual because the main difference between it and pansexual is that omnisexuals can have a gender preference. You could also call yourself bisexual, since you are attracted to multiple genders. But like Unite UK said, don’t stress over it. You can use whatever label you’d like, or even multiple labels if they all fit you.
I’m a girl and I like trans gender and gender queer people along with guys, so What am I?
Have you looked into pansexuality? We have a quiz that may be worth looking at https://uniteuk1.com/2018/11/sexuality-quiz/
maybe your skoliosexual but not exclusively skoliosexual bc of the liking guys bit ^^
so ive decided im either bisexual or omnisexual. i dont know which. are people who are omnisexual atracted to everyone, like people who are pansexual? and if so, how would i know weather or not im omnisexual or bi since i havent met anyone non-binary or anything like that? im sorry if i offended anyone.
Yes, omnisexuality is the attraction to all genders. The difference between pansexuality and omnisexuality is that pansexuals are seen as “gender-blind” whilst someone who is omnisexual can recognise gender.
Also you haven’t offended anyone, it’s ok to ask questions as long as you’re polite… which you are! It’s okay to be curious and you can still be omnisexual whilst having no non-binary partners. For example, I identified as a lesbian before I had a girlfriend 🙂
I personally don’t know if I’m pansexual or omnisexual, but I don’t really know, I might even be polysexual, even though I truly thought that it means that you have more then one partner. But this site says that it is a combination of different preferences, which I am. I don’t know yet, could I get an answer? I don’t care who, as long as they know. 🙂
HI,
Bisexual is an umbrella term and omni would fall under it. I was confused as well (still am lol) but right now I identify as omni.
-Hope this helped ^-^
I’m bisexual and biromantic but I’m attracted to men a little more does tgat make me not valid?
It’s not a 50/50 split, so you’re 100% valid 🙂
I belong to the Quoisexual community, and however small, it is a sexuality which means:
Being unsure if you experience attraction or not
Being unable to understand attraction as a concept or feeling
Finding the concept of attraction inaccessible, inapplicable, nonsensical
Being unable to define sexual attraction and so unable to say whether or not you experience it
Having difficulty distinguishing sexual attraction from other types of attraction
Struggling to find a sexual orientation that is applicable to you because attraction is too complicated or because none seem to fit
Not experiencing sexuality, sexual orientation or sexual attraction as it is normally defined
(According to rainbow wiki)
It is similar to questioning yet not the same
Absolutely beautiful article!!!❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Just trying to broaden the spectrum by adding a bit of teal, green, black & white
Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for actually reading the comments!
Of course, we’re here to help!
these are all made up you can be gay or straight or bi no one is gonna be fucking a cat or car
No one said they’re a car or cat. Sexuality is firstly different to gender, so this comment that people are identifying as cars and cats is for a different topic. But whilst we’re here, gender is a spectrum and it isn’t as black or white. Why don’t you take this anger and use it for something useful, like reading a book on how not to be hateful.
Excuse me, but I find this a little offensive. It seems to me like you are not validating the sexual orientation or gender orientation of many people. There are many different sexualities that help people identify and feel like they have a place. It would be much appreciated if you didn’t come on to pages like these and troll and be hateful.
Thank you.
To all of the people who believe that there are only 2 sexualities: straight or gay, I will not go against your beliefs, Because trying to fight someone is MUCH harder than just leaving them alone. But that means that neither should you. I am glad that you spoke about what you believe in, because if you are part of the LGBTQAI+ community, you will be able to see different peoples opinions. In life, there will always be people like this, who dont believe what we believe. You just have to live with it… You cannot change people’s beliefs if you are saying to put the hate somewhere else, because this just leads them to explain why, somewhere else. Causing a domino effect.
I am questioning right now, but I know that I am not straight… I think that I might be Abrosexual and Aromantic…. BUUTTTT I am not sure… I really dont know…
Well if you feel that way, I can’t stop you, but I can say that there is the asexual spectrum in which the person doesn’t experience sexual attraction, experiences sexual attraction after an emotional connection is formed, or they rarely experience sexual attraction.
To anyone out there has more knowledge, please inform me of my mistakes or what I can be doing to better explain the asexual spectrum.
I think this helped me a lot! I’ve been looking everywhere for actual definition of all or most of the sexualities and I found it, I think I finally know what who I am as a human being, thank you!!! <3
I’m so glad it’s helped!
Lately I’ve questioned my sexuality. It helps to have all the definition and meanings of each, but I still don’t know how to identify myself. I support all sexualities and try to help people who can’t find theirs.
My family actually is fighting over if all sexualities are okay, I feel like I have something to say about it but they keep me out of it because they don’t thing I understand. What should I do?
Hi just wanted to mention Autochorisexual which is a person who can be aroused by sexual material but they themselves will not seek a sexual partner or even partake in any sexual actions.
Its a form of asexuality but I found it fitted myself much better than just saying that I was asexual. However its not very well known so it took me a long time to find it and now that I have I feel much more comfortable knowing that there is a name for it. So I would like to spread the awareness of it.
I used to believe I was gay, but now I believe I may be Androsexual. I am still confused because I like guys, but also transgender men. Can you help me out?
As transgender man are man, you’re gay I’d say
androsexuality is the attraction to masculine people. so, if a woman was very masculine, had short hair, wore ripped jeans and tank tops, but identified as a woman, would you still date her? if so, you may be androsexual! if not because she’s a woman, then yes, you may be gay 🙂
I’m so confused. I thought I was asexual but I do want sex sometimes. Thank I just don’t get the “urge” to have sex very often. Maybe once every 3-6 months? But now I’m starting to feel attraction(a crush maybe? If I had the chance for a sexual relationship, I’d take it though) to a woman I have a professional “bond” with. I’ve felt attraction to women before, but not many. I haven’t acted on these attractions though. It really depends on their personalities. Can someone help me figure this out?! Thank you! P.s. sorry about the long post.
Hey!
Without knowing everything, you mentioned you’re attracted to personalities – Which could be demisexuality which you can attach to other labels. E.g. Demi Asexual Lesbian. Have you taken our sexuality quiz? as this may help!
Hi, I have been out as lesbian for a while but I still sometimes wish guys liked me, I have no sexual attraction to males, and I don’t know whether or not I’m romantically attracted to guys either but sometimes I want them to like me and I wasn’t sure if thats normal
Hey, it’s natural to want people to find you attractive 🙂
hey so im confused on what my sexuality is and what type of person im attracted to. is there something that could help me figure out what my sexuality is and what type of person im attracted to?
Hey, make sure to check out our sexuality quiz 🙂 That may help!
It’s missing homoflexible and heteroflexible. I mean they’re both kind of like bicurous in my opinion, but that’s not either. I guess they could all be counted as “questioning” but that’s a stretch, and as there’s already quite a few specific ones, I figured I’d mention these.
I am and sexually attracted only to males, I am a boy and I find some girls sexy and beautiful. I am 88% romanticly attracted only to males, what does that make me?
You are probably bisexual, but lean more towards the male attraction side.
Hello ^^ well… I’m actually a little bit confused about my sexuality, I feel attracted to any gender… Like… I find attractive men and women, but also non-binary, androgynous and transgender people. Can someone please help me? I don’t know if this part is important… But I identify as a gender fluid person ^^. Thnxs for reading this large comment jeje ❤️.
I would say that along with being gender fluid, you may be pansexual or omnisexual. It depends on whether gender is factor in you liking them. If gender is a factor then you might be omnisexual, if not you might be pansexual.
I hope this helps you figure out your sexuality. 🙂
Hi, I’m bisexual and I want to come out to my parents. I’m afraid they wont accept me though and I’ll be kicked out. I have nowhere to go and I am in my early teens. Should I just not tell them?
I’d wait till you made sure you had a place to go as a “worst case scenario”
So Iv’e been pretty confused on my identity. I feel like my femininity and masculinity changes but never my gender. Is there a word for this? Or is it normal to constantly changing.
It is perfectly normal, we can feel fluid in our appearance and it not change our gender / sexuality.
Hey, so I’m attracted to males but I wouldn’t mind being in a relationship with females either. I’ve never had a crush on a girl before so could anyone give me an idea of what I am? Thanks!
You could be homoflexible? Or maybe bisexual, and you just greatly prefer men over women. Hope this helps 🙂
HI!
I’d just like to add the edition of polyamorous to the list.
Polyamorous – The ability to be attracted to multiple people at the same time (done with consent of all parties involved, regardless of gender)
Polyamorous isn’t a sexuality, it’s a relationship style.
The test came out as demisexual, and I quite agree to it. But is it possible to be Demisexual+Asexual+Bisexual?
You can definitely be demisexual and bisexual at the same time. They can be combined to demibisexual or bidemisexual if you want.
Asexual people generally do not feel sexual attraction to another person, so I would say no.
However, it is possible for you to be a demisexual and have the capacity to be sexually attracted to both men and women. Although demisexual people have to form an emotional/romantic connection to the person before feeling any sexual attraction, so I’d say that demisexuality is a distinct sexuality itself, different from bisexuality.
Im so happy that abrosexuals have finally got recognised I have looked on every website and not one have but in abrosexuality to all h=the Abros out there! We finally did it!!!
What is your sexuality if you are attracted to men, but are Demigender?
HI! you could always call yourself queer, or possibly androsexual. if you are a demiboy you can call yourself gay as an umbrella term, or if you are a demigirl you could call yourself straight. hope this helps a little! (also, you dont really need labels i mean… just love who you love like damn lol)
Hi there!
I noticed Polysexual is on the list, but not Polyamorous. I’d really like it if we were included. 🙂
Thanks!
Hey , so i am questioning my gender identity a lot and I really would like some help with that. I have been kinda switching between trans and non binary. I myself am very much a tomboy-ish girl who is in a Christian house hold ( which made me feel like a sin my whole life ) and I went to church a lot and I hated it. Hopefully some one here can help me because I’m still in the closet.
as a cisgender girl, i am not the most qualified to help you with finding your identity. however, as a gay girl i can say that coming out of the closet is a very very hard thing to do. try and figure out who you are to the best of your ability before coming out. you dont need a label for your gender, but just figure out how you feel. if youre worried that your parents wont except you, or will throw you out, try and find a place to stay beforehand. maybe a supportive friend’s house for example. if youre worried they may become violent, ASK FOR HELP! its one of the hardest things to do, but your safety comes first. no matter what please remember that you are not a sin. (im jewish btw) i dont necessarily believe in god, but if there is a god, i believe that he made us the way we were meant to be and thats that. i hope this helps somewhat!
can you help me find out my sexuality.. i’m so confused
i feel like an outcast in a way because nobody else i know has this sexuality or is attracted to this
but i like guys and i also like drag queens (i’m female) and this is really embarrassing coming out online so i have no idea how i’m gonna tell my family
You would just be straight. If you’rr attracted to female drag queens you’re probably bisexual with a preference. I hope this helped. I’m not a proffesional though.
Hi. You forgot about autosexuality which means that you are only able to be attracted to yourself.
What about bi-curiousity? Def. should be included as well
I think that would fall under the term questioning.
Hello just wanted to mention that u forgot Fraysexual and Frayromantic 🙂
Hey so I really want to know what my sexuality is and I’ve been searching and searching and I can’t find anything that fits.
I used to think I was Bisexual, and I might still be but everything is just confusing me because sometimes I’ll be attracted to guys and then suddenly I’ll be attracted to girls, but I’m mostly attracted to girls like 70% girls and 30% guys and sometimes I feel like my sexuality changes but I’m still confused.
Can anyone help me?
i feel just like this!!!
i still cant find my sexuality 🙁
You sound like you could be Abrosexual, if you find your sexuality fluctuates. Or, if you have the capacity to be attracted to girls and guys at the same time, you would be bisexual, even if you’re mostly attracted to girls. I’m 70-30 too, in the opposite way, I prefer guys, but I’m still bisexual. You can be bisexual and attracted to males 80% of the time and females 20% of the time, and vice versa.
Hey, I’m a guy and I say that I’m gay. Like I would only date another guy but I would have sex with a girl/non-binary person. And I don’t know if I’m actually bisexual. And I’m not sure if I should just say I’m gay because if I say I’m bi people might think I want a relationship with them. I think that I’m a homoromantic bisexual but I want to know if there is a better term for it.
What exactly is the difference between finsexual and gynosexual? They seem exactly the same..
gynesexual is attracted to femboys and femininity finsexual is just heterosexual but being attracted to feminine women
Well I prefer just to be called gay but I am a female who finds males, females and nb people who present in a feminine way (obviously for nb people it can change day to day but some prefer to look more feminine I guess but idk) attractive. But I can only see myself forming a relationship/doing it with females. so pretty much I don’t really understand wtf I am but I just wanted to know if anyone knew what they would call me?
Finsexual I think
Wait, I’m kinda confused, did u mean males in general, or feminine males?
Sounds like you’re gynosexual, you’re attracted to femininity, wether it being feminine women, feminine men or feminine enbys (Non-binary people).
What if you only feel attraction to males with feminen quilities, or females with masculine qualities. Cause I feel like this, but I don’t know what it is.
so i am REALLY DETERMINED to find out my sexuality. i say im bisexual but it just doesnt feel right. i have a feeling im lesbian but…that word just feels too strong for me. can someone help??? i know forsure im attracted to females, romantically and sexually. im somewhat attracted to males but not strong at all, i know im attracted sexually but romantically not sure. basically i lean towards women. is there a specific sexuality for that? or am i just considered bisexual…HELP!!!
hey! if you feel that you don’t identify with lesbian, that’s ok! you can still classify yourself as bi even if you tend to prefer women. bisexual doesn’t mean 50/50, you’re still bi if you mostly like women but still like some men. i would say you’re bisexual with a preference towards women, hope this helps!
Hey! I think you might be homoflexible. You’re homosexual with heterosexual tendencies. https://www.merriam-webster.com/words-at-play/homoflexible-heteroflexible-meaning-slang-definition
Hey! I’m still figuring my sexuality all out. I thought I was bi, cause I’m attracted to men, women, and non-binary people, but I’m also attracted to gender fluid people. Idk what I am, pls help.
Hi! I think you might be polysexual, meaning you are attracted to more than one gender, but not all. If you are attracted to all genders it would mean that you are pansexual.
You are still bi if you are attracted to gender fluid people. There are descriptors that help people figure out if they like all genders or multiple gender, but they all land under Bisexual. Liking gender-fluid people is the same as liking men and women, because they go from men to women and women to men.
I can feel romantic towards female, but not sexual. I can feel both romantic/sexual towards guys. What is my sexuality?? I’m confused
Hi Grace
I am going to guess by your name you identify as a woman, in which case, you could be a bi-romantic heterosexual. You are romantically attracted to guys and girls, but sexually attracted to guys, and not girls. Hope this clears things up 🙂
If I am romantically attracted to guys and nonbinary people, but sexually attracted to women and nonbinary people, what would that be? would I be bi? poly?
For reference, I’m a guy-
I’m still young and developing in my late teens and I’ve been struggling to label myself my entire life. I’ve put a lot of thought into it and I’ve come up with a lot of ideas but none of them really feel like me. I only feel attraction to girls because of their personality I have no sexual or further romantic attraction to females or femininity. I have a lot of romantic attraction to males and masculinity but I have a lot of preferences and some times I feel like I’m being to picky but at the same while I feel like I can be. I’m attracted to guys both romantically and sexually but mostly romantically. But a lot of my peers misunderstand me they believe I am attracted to all males which is not the truth I have specific attractions to persons especially if I know them well which might label me as a Demiromantic or demisexual. I’ve been reading a lot of the comments and posts people leave on this site and I felt like leaving my own to get feedback to help me understand my self better. One of the comments here mentions something about Quoisexual.
Quoisexual community, and however small, it is a sexuality which means:
Being unsure if you experience attraction or not
Being unable to understand attraction as a concept or feeling
Finding the concept of attraction inaccessible, inapplicable, nonsensical
Being unable to define sexual attraction and so unable to say whether or not you experience it
Having difficulty distinguishing sexual attraction from other types of attraction
Struggling to find a sexual orientation that is applicable to you because attraction is too complicated or because none seem to fit
Not experiencing sexuality, sexual orientation or sexual attraction as it is normally defined
I also feel like I fall under this label.
Some times I’m just really confused and don’t know.
I Always tend to be attracted to straight guys for reference I’m a guy and I always fall for the guys who where the relationship is one sided! And I’m always friend-zoned idk if I’m the only one who feels this way but it always happens for example my current situation.
I have a huge crush on one of my friends who is currently in a relationship with a girl and we’ve spoken about my crush on him and he is very flattered but he’s not into guys which I totally respect but for some reason it drives me to be attracted to him.
Biromantic and Bisexual. Biromantic and Bisexuality can be different gender for the romantic orientation and sexual orientation. I’m pretty sure that’s it.
I’m questioning. I sometimes feel straight (I’m a female) and other times I’m like, “I’m totally bi.” So does anyone have any suggestions on “knowing for sure” or something? Thanks!
Sounds like you’re Abrosexual, and you have a fluid sexuality, meaning who you’re sexually attracted to fluctuates. I’m male, and I fluctuate between being gay and bisexual, and sometimes even just straight.
What is the term for when I’m male and sexually attracted to males but not romantically but am sexually and romantically attracted to females?
if there isnt one, give it a name! i did that for myself. i call it surreromantic where in romantically attracted to people who are different strange or stand out from the crowd.
hey i found out im demisexual but i had another realization. im romantically attracted to people who are different or stand out from the crowd. i chose to call it surreromantic. could you guys add this to the list?
i have a friend who is attracted to everything BUT men. i dont see a description of that for any of these so maybe its a new one? and in that case there must be a vice versa. could you add these?
That’s a form of polysexuality
Hi. Im extremely confused. I think im bisexual but some days i am attracted to females and others not. Some days im attracted to males and some days not. I dont think i get ‘urges’ and if i do it extremely rare. Can someone please please help me
Abrosexual- Abrosexuality is described as an individual who experiences their sexuality change frequently. It can fluctuate between different sexualities often.
It’s the first one.
If you don’t experience sexual urges you might also be in the asexual category. (There are many sub categories in asexuality).
It’s all too possible people have one or more sexual orientations. I’m pansexual/autochorissexual, and now that I’ve learned what ‘abrosexual’ means, I might be that too. Although my sexual orientation doesn’t change too frequently.
I dont want a realtionship at all, if i feel some attraction to someone its because i like their hair, clothes, etc, i just wanna be a normal girl thats not into love
i identify as demi but i am sexually and romantically attracted to my friends and no one else i need to have a connection first but i need to scale up from romantically and then sexualy atraction
homoflexible :3
YESS I think thats what i am but I dont know if thats a term in the LGBTQ i feel like im attracted to the same sex but would be open to dating other people
So I think I’m questioning because most days I’m Bi, some days I feel lesbian, and some days I feel attracted to anyone, keep in mind i’m still young so it might just be my brain getting used to the fact that i’m not straight because I only found out I wasn’t straight like a year or two ago. Like I said idk if im bi, lesbian, or pansexual, or a mix between the three.
Your areosexual. Just like me! Your a fluid of sexualities. But it may not me the case, you may still may just be finding your true identity.
I have a question. What if i don’t care much about gander but still a little bit and i don’t want any sex but i still think that some people are hot but i mostly like males but can also be attracted to females and other ganders ? 😅
I am confused about my sexuality. There are times I identify as a bisexual woman but I am too interested in dating and marrying a woman to the point where I don’t feel like its necessary to call myself bisexual as I mostly see myself marrying a woman and that I would prefer marrying a woman than a man. I am attracted to men but don’t think I want to marry one as I am too interested in marrying a woman. What does this mean for me?
Hey I have a question, so I’ve been questioning for a while and I’m not sure what I am.
I’m attracted to men so I can see myself marrying a male, ive had crushes on males and well, I like men
I’ve never felt sexual attraction to a female, although I’ve seen women and thought of kissing them but I’ve never had crushes on them. I could see myself marrying a woman.
I’ve never been in a relationship but I could see myself being in a relationship with either a male or a female.( in fact I want to be/ have been in a relationship with both of those genders)
I’m not sure if because I’ve never felt “proper” sexual attraction to women I’m biromantic or if I’m pan sexual because I don’t care about the gender I’m with.
Does anyone know what I could be?
Mabye your panromantic and hetrosexual?
I have a question. I am currently questioning my sexual/romantic preferences and have tried to find a label that I feel comfortable with. I have considered using the labels queer and bisexual but I find the terms a little too broad for me. Because I find other females more attractive than males for the most part, I considered that I may be a lesbian. But I also find males, non-binary people, and androgynous non-binary people that appear or present themselves as more femminine attractive. I suppose I could still be bisexual but I find femininity to be a specific role in my attraction and I don’t feel like the label reflects that enough for me. Is there a better label I can use?
I guess that would make you finsexual. But just look it up and see for yourself🤗
I have a question at the moment i identify as Pansexual but i’m really only attracted to people who have a feminine quality in them, but i also might be thinking i could be poly-sexual becuase at certain moments (that don’t happen often) i can be attracted to other genders. What label would be best for me?
I guess I would describe that as abrosexual changing between bisexual and poly-/pansexual
Well after that i feel being bisexual is boring lol (im still not gonna change tho lol)
I’m actually a Panromantic and Demisexual Genderfluid, Came here to read more about it, It makes more sense now, and I can actually explain it without confusion
Ok so, time for confusion.
I date people for personality
I feel sexual attraction to every gender but female
I only feel sexual attraction with someone I form an EXTREMELY strong bond with
Hey! I have a question, I feel like I change from gender everyday so it’s like one day I feel like a girl and the other day I feel like a boy and so on.. I really want to know if there is a gender for that and if people can relate.
I don’t know much about this type of thing, but maybe consider looking into the term gender-fluid? The definition sounds a lot like what your talking about!
I’m female and I’m sexually attracted to bother genders but only romantically attracted to men what’s it called
I’m young and I think I’m asexual, can asexual people fall in love?
Yes. You may be aromatic
I literally opened a notepad window and started deducting where I fall, lmao. To put it all simply, I don’t experience sexual or romantic attraction. But I do feel sensual attraction which is just a desire to be touched by someone or to touch someone. Not in a sexual way, just wanting sensuality with another person. I think for the longest time I confused that with sex and romance, and it would mess up every relationship I was ever in. I would get with someone, but I would be lacking in sex and romance. I was just wanting to hug or hold them. Nothing else.
So I supposed I would fall under asexual and aromantic. But is there a certain label or descriptor for someone like me? If not, that’s fine. Just wondering.
I know of two other sexualities.
Heteroflexible and Homoflexible.
Heteroflexible (as far as I know), is someone who is primarily attracted to someone of the opposite gender, but under some rare circumstances can be attracted to the same gender.
Homoflexible (as far as I know) is someone who is primarily attracted to someone of the same gender, but under some rare circumstances can be attracted to the opposite gender.
aka anisosexual (homoflexible) and elasexual (heteroflexible)
Hey! I am attracted to men and women, but I can’t see myself dating or having sex with men. I find them attractive and I might even develop a crush on them, but I could never bring myself to actually date a man. What does that mean?
Is there a term for having and attraction to multiple sexualities but not all. Like polysexual is having an attraction to multiple genders. Or is it used for bothering?
Hey, Is there a sexuality for preferring girls romantically? But can still date boys?
Bi
I am not sure if I am Omnisexual or Pansexual. I am manly attracted to guys but I also like feminine boys, I also like masculine girls. I am so confused, help please lol.
hi so I just need a place to rant… I recently had a same-sex crush on a girl, and it was the first time I felt exactly like you where supposed to, I’ve had what I at least thought was crushes on guys before but it was different, but I don’t think it was nothing either. I find guys attractive and fantasize about them, I’ve just never felt that strongly as with the girl with a guy I actually know. I’m guessing I can feel that way with a guy, but have trouble identifying as bisexual because of that I don’t really have proof. So currently the label I feel most comfortable with is queer. But I really want to come out to some friends and my parents (they’re all supportive of LGBTQ+ people), I hate hiding this part of me from them. The problem is that if I come out as queer then pick a label I’ll have to come out to them again, which I don’t really want to do. Any advice or people who can relate?
Me too except for me I came out as bi and then lesbian and now I’m confused
I kinda think I’m pansexual. That was my quiz answer.
After reading this it definitely opened my eyes, but I’m still confused about myself. For me I am asexual toward men but I am sexually and romantily attracted to women, but i’m not attracted to both genders
If you are a male, straight. If you are a female, lesbian. If you are any other gender, trixic.
I’m struggeling a bit to find out what label fits me. I feel like gender doesn’t matter to me, as long as the person is kind. I’m not as easy with getting an emotional connection with someone at first. But I do get better with it when I get to know the person. I’m not sure about a sexual connection.
Any idea what label would fit me?
Hey um…. I can’t find out what I am!!!! I kinda just wanna date every kind of human, girl, boy, they, Trans. Anybody that’s kind and I have an emotional connection to. Does this mean that I’m Pansexual and something more….?
I’d say pansexual and demisexual! Or demiromantic.
a few things. 1,polysexual means you are a person dating more than 1 person. also you should add polymourus. polymourus means 3 or more people that are all dating.
I believe you are mistaking polysexual with polygamy
so i just found out i am omnisexual, but am really attracted like 80% to females .
Hi I’m 11 and I’ve had crushes on girls and boys but when I’m older I don’t want to date or marry a boy just girls
I found this to be extremely helpful. I’m straight, but I’m writing a story and decided to give all my characters a canon sexuality, this website helped expand my knowledge, but my brain is still having trouble making permanent decisions. The majority of my characters are straight, but internally, I feel pressured because I don’t wanna look like I’m not being inclusive or that I’m homophobic, which isn’t the case, although I still feel stuck. I know it’s my story (Sorry if this isn’t important, but I’m young and in need of help), but I don’t know what to do, any advice? Also congratulations to everyone who has found themselves and to those who haven’t I hope you do as well! 🙂
Hey I really need help, people keep asking me and I usually don’t know what to say because my thing is kinda weird. Before I explain my sexual attraction I wanna say that I don’t have anything against females that had the sex change!
I like females that haven’t had the sex change but I don’t mind what they identify as. For example, I meet a biological female but she identifies as a male. I would be totally be fine with that and use the pronouns they would like. I don’t know what this is called and if someone could tell me I would very much appreciate it!
Gynosexual maybe
You mention sexualities you have not included on your list in the a couple of the definitions on your list
i’m may to tell my parents that i am Pansexul i need advice though
Hey, I saw your list and noticed my sexuality isn’t there. I consider myself Spectrasexual which means I romantically like multiple genders but not all. Similar to Omnisexual however omnisexuals have preferences and we straight up have attractions to certain gender identities. Our colors are Pink, lavender/purple, white, turquoise and baby blue. I’d very much appreciate it if you please add it. Thank you!
Hello, i am a cis female attracted to male and non binary people, and very slightly females. whatttt amm iii. im going between Polysexual, Bi or omni ahhh i need help
I’m pretty confused with my sexuality right now. I feel attracted to masculinity on some days but have no desire for an emotional or sexual relationship. It’s superficial like just noticing a box of cerial looks pretty and then moving on. The idea of sex or action relating to it like kissing makes me extremely uncomfortable and slightly disgusted. Sometimes I’m not even attracted to anything. Any idea what this is?
That would be heteroflexible meaning: That you are attracted to the same gender but you like the opposite gender rarely. 🙂
There is also a sexuality called a trixie. A trixie is a non binary person who is attracted to women.
the Recipsexual sexuality was not on there and you should include more umbrella terms
Hi! I am very confused on my sexuality. I like girls (I am a girl) but, I tend to like guys more often. I think I am Heteroflexible ( Liking the opposite gender but can like the same gender rarely) but, guys gross me out and I think it is weird for me to date a guy. I do not want to date a guy at all, I want to date a girl. Is there a sexuality Idk about or am I just weird?
Same for me and I don’t know what it is either
Hi umm idk what I am doing but please if you see thsi help. My sister is currently trying to figure out here sexuality (she uses she/they pronouns btw so that why I’ll switch between them) she doesn’t really care about gender or the sex of the human but gender does rarely become a factor they get their attraction by the humans personality but they don’t feel like they identify as pansexual can you please help.
I’m not an expert but maybe your sister could be omnisexual? That means you are attracted to people of any gender, but unlike pansexual, gender does sometimes play a factor in whether you like someone or not. So your sister could be attracted to people of any gender, and sometimes gender wouldn’t matter to them, but sometimes she may be attracted to someone based on their gender. Similar to pansexual, but it’s another possible label for your sister if they aren’t comfortable with pansexual!
Or she could call herself unlabeled (as I do) and just not identify with a sexuality. For me, that just means I sometimes like or have a crush on people, and yeah that’s about it, I don’t feel the need to specify to people any further. I hope that all helps your sister! Hope I got the right pronouns too, I used they/she like you did 🙂
You did 🙂 and thank you
I’ve had crushes on girls and boys but don’t want to date a boy I just want to date girls what does that make me
Hi I’ve had crushes on boys and girls but don’t want to date a boy just girls what am I? Right now I’m identifying as bisexual
Accidentally put two different user names the second one is my updated version
After a tedious amount of research, I am yet to find the word for my sexuality. Not sure if there is one, but here goes: I like females, but also females with penises (not sure how vulgar I can get on here so I’m keeping things middle-school sex ed). I can’t even find what to call females with penises. If anyone can help, I would be extremely grateful.
If you’re a girl you’d be lesbian because females with Penises are still females
If you’re a boy you’d be straight and if something else look it up because I don’t know
I identify as non -binary and I like women and nominate people, what would I label myself as?
girls with urm u know, are intersexual. so are you…actually, idk
is there a sexuality where you’re only sexually attracted to people assigned female at birth? i’m panromantic but the closest i can think of to this is gynosexual, or something of the sort (since im enby) – however, if i said that, it would be transphobic because i wouldn’t be sexually attracted to trans girls
I am emotionally and romantically attracted to my abimegender cat, but when the neighbors dog goes on heat I feel sexually and intellectually aroused.
I find that I struggle to make friends or interact with other people. I find that my skoliosexaul side is truly and authentically awoken when I am with my cat or my many sheep.
I have lived in New Zealand all my life and have struggled with my sexuality, so I was wondering if I am normal, I don’t seem to fit in to any of the above categories.
No pun intended, cat-agories, he he he he.
I get scared about relationships cus I detach from the other so quick
hey hey, what sexuality would i say i am if i’m attracted to females and mostly feminine non-binary people?
So I have never felt sexually attracted to anyone ever, only romantically. I’m attracted to all genders, but never sexually. Could someone tell me what sexuality that is?
whats the differance between Poly and Pan?
Pan is attracted to all genders, while poly is limited. :3
These are 2 a lot of people miss!
Heteroflexible: someone who is mostly attracted to the opposite sex, but also likes other genders.
Homoflexible: someone who is mostly attracted to the same sex, but also likes other genders.
I guess I’m questioning.. i would say that I have a “crush” or that “I’m in love” but really I don’t feel anything but I want to.. I don’t feel the need to be romantic or sexual with anyone of any gender or sexuality.. would anyone know what that is??
Hey! Abrosexual person here, ask me anything! (I will answer if it appropriate!)
Hey I’m also abrosexual but I also don’t experience sexual attraction to people only romantic attraction I aomly want the company and love but I don’t want sexual attraction I don’t know what it is do you have any idea?
I just love everyone 🙏❤️
I think you should include Polyamory (being in more than 1 relationship at the same time with al partners full knowledge and consent) in this list. also I think you should just add “unlabeled” because a lot of people are unlabeled and so don’t want to indentify as pomosexual because as the name says the don’t want to be labeled