Queer Love is a monthly feature interviewing Queer couples from all across the globe. Each month a brand new couple will be revealed to Unite’s audience – Next month, this could be you! Please get in touch with the email provided at the bottom of this article, if you wish to take part next time!
This month, we’re introducing you to Lisette and their partner!
UUK: Thank you so much for getting involved with Unites Queer Love feature! Let’s start off with the question on everybody’s lips; how did you meet one another?
“We met through the Internet, at first we followed each other on Twitter and during last year, they made a Discord server which I joined, that way we became closer and eventually started talking everyday, to the point it was weird if we didn’t!”
nearly two thirds of same-sex couples meet one another online
Meeting online is the most common way for same-sex couples to meet, reaching a staggering 65% in comparison to the 39% of straight couples. However the stigma of meeting your loved one online has dramatically declined in recent years, making introducing our new partners to friendly faces a lot easier!
UUK: When did you realise you both had feelings towards one another?
“I don’t think either of us can really pinpoint when it happened but I can tell you how! As I mentioned before, we were talking everyday without fail and at one point they started helping me with my writing, cheering me on and giving me tips, they were so lovely and encouraging that I couldn’t help but catch feelings for them haha! I just remember waking up one day, after talking all night with them and realising that I liked them as more than friends, from then on it’s history!
For them it’s pretty similar, they say that they don’t really know when it happened but at some point they just started seeing me in a different light. She jokingly told me that they woke up one day and said “Well, I won’t be dealing with those (their feelings)”
Positive affirmations between two people encourages to create a happier and more meaningful relationship.
Many of us identify with having ‘Words of Affirmation’ as a love language, meaning that they really believe in spoken and written words, taking them literally, having effect on how they feel inside.
Good affirmations for your partner are:
I just want to let you know how proud I am of you
I’m always here to support you
I’m so grateful you’ll here with me
It melts my heart watching you
Thank you for how hard you work around our home
I value you so much
UUK: We love hearing of couples favourite things to do together is; what’s yours?
“I think our favorite thing to do together is watch movies! We’re in a long distance relationship so there’s not much we can do together, so we really enjoy watching films, we do so almost every night. We’ve watched sixty movies this year alone! It’s a really fun activity, even when we’re together in person we really do prefer watching a film rather than doing anything else. We enjoy talking afterwards too, even more so when we watch a really intriguing film like Old Boy or Memories Of Murder! She also says she loves when we get to cook together and also sleep haha! They’re the kind of person that can fall asleep anywhere as long as I’m beside them”
Films are especially good whilst in a long distance relationship
Watching films with one enough a great way to spend time with your partner, sharing the experience together and discussing your thoughts afterwards is a good way of bonding. Ways to watch movies together online are:
Zoom
Hulu Watch Party
Netflix Party
Disney Plus Group Watch
MyCircle TV
Skype
UUK: Speaking of activities! Who’s the better Chef in your relationship?
“I’m not really the person who cooks so when we’re together, she’s always the one who cooks for both of us! I’m more of a baker. My favorite dish that she’s cooked for me is Gohan, it’s basically sushi rice with vegetables and katsudon, honestly one of the best dishes I’ve ever had (and my girlfriend makes it so good….) We’ve been together for only five months so I haven’t really gotten the chance to cook for her, though I made her a brownie once and they said they liked it!”
Good food creates a huge feeling of happiness and contentment
These feelings can be magnified especially when cooking with loved ones as it strengthens your bond and can deepen your understandings of one another. Sharing tastes and textures amongst our foods together can also increase the level of intimacy between one another too!
UUK: It goes without saying that The recent years have been difficult for the majority of couples, whether thats moving in together or being separated for a long periods of time. How did you two live through lockdowns after lockdowns?
“We weren’t together as a couple during Lockdown! We basically kept sane by talking and calling each other everyday and talking with our friends and asking them to play games (we played a lot of Among Us last year). As for our plans for 2022 we still don’t have many, we do know that we want to spend the summer together, January and February, as for the rest of the year we will see how that goes.
Being in a long distance relationship really has its disadvantages
Like needing to have quite a sum of money set aside for every time we want to see each other. We live 2 hours away from each other but plane tickets are expensive and we both still live with our parents, so it’s hard.”
UUK: We can completely sympathise with you at Unite, we wishing you all the best for 2022 and thank you for being the final featured couple of the year for us! It’s been a pleasure to have you and I’m sure our readers will enjoy the insight of your lives!
If you’re feeling inspired and wish to submit you and your partner to feature on the next Queer Love article – please get in touch with Laura at lauranyeart@gmail.com
I look forward to speaking with you!
Laura Nye
Freelance Writer
Freelance Multi-Media Creator whom continuously ranges between imagery to words.
If you wish to get in touch; please reach out to lauranyeart@gmail.com
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