I came out about 4 years ago when I was 15 as bisexual because I thought saying I was bi would be easier than admitting I was a lesbian. But there is no easier way to come out. If I could go back and change something it would be me saying I was bi because I’m not and I had to come out again a while afterwards because I hated pretending I was something that I wasn’t you know?

I knew that I liked girls since I was probably about 13. It is tough coming out and nobody can tell you what to do and in what way to do it because we’re all different. However, through my experiences, I probably would’ve just told my parents and people closest to me because as soon as everyone started finding out I got bullied quite a lot and even jumped, chased, beaten and scrutinized for it. I’m not trying to scare you because coming out and finally getting to show everyone who you truly are is the most amazing thing in the world. However, there are still some nasty people out there who can’t accept the LGBTQ community into their hearts. But that’s ok because it just gives us more of an opportunity to show them how great we are! You will get people saying things and trying to stop you being who you are but it’ll just make you stronger, braver and help you grow a thicker skin.
My advice to those of you who are trying to come out would be:
  1. Don’t feel like you have to label yourself because we’re all different and we’re all learning new things about ourselves on a day to day basis.
  2. I know it’s easier said than done but don’t put yourself down or blame yourself. Instead, embrace the glorious mess that you are! Because we’re all beautiful in our own way 🙂
  3. Coming out to your parents can be so so difficult, but you’ve just got to remember that they’ll love you no matter what and if they can’t accept it straight away, it’s just because they’re trying to understand it and process it. But I promise you it’ll all work out in the end.
  4. There are loads of inspirational people on social media who have shared their coming out stories, so make sure you check out some of their stories, as something they might say may help you with your situation.
  5. When you are ready to come out (you will know when the time feels right) – don’t think you have to tell everyone straight away –  it’s not a race! Choose one person who you trust more than anyone else – a friend, sibling, parent/guardian or teacher. As soon as you’ve opened up to the first person things will seem a thousand times easier and clearer for you.
  6. It is very easy to let the anxieties and fears around this experience totally take over. But remember, coming out will be one of the most amazing things you will ever do. You will finally be able to be your true self and it WILL change your life. Those butterflies you feel in your stomach – see them as excitement rather than nerves!
  7. Some people do have bad experiences there’s no point in me denying it. However, that doesn’t happen to everyone and if it does happen to you it will resolve itself soon enough and there are always people to talk to if you’re ever feeling alone or lost. (Like me, my dm’s are always open)>> @the_reckless_tomboy if you guys ever need anything just let me know. Furthermore, there are so many other people in the LGBTQ community who’d be more than happy to help you out too, don’t hesitate to ask any of them because they’d honestly be more than happy to help.
  8. You will be amazed at how free you’ll feel once you’ve come out. Moreover, the experience is different for everyone and at times it may not go as well as you’d like it to. Just remember that you are doing the right thing, you are allowing yourself to be who you were always meant to be and this means you can start living YOUR life YOUR way!
Furthermore, if you can learn anything from my story and advice then I’m glad I could help you in some way, and if any of you need anything I’ll be more than happy to answer any questions and try to give you as much advice as possible.