Bisexuality, a sexuality label that has seen a lot of negativity throughout the years. There are many myths and false assumptions of individuals who identify in this label. As a bisexual female, it annoys me when I’m asked these top 5 questions. So, let’s find out what grind our gears as fellow bisexuals.
1. Bisexual people are ‘greedy’
How did they know? I’m forever sitting on the fence. Such a typical bisexual.
This myth stems from the fact that bisexual people are attracted to both men & women. Apparently this makes them greedy as they can’t make up their mind & instead they chose to fancy both.
Let me tell you what it actually means. It means that a individual that identifies as bisexual is attracted both male & female individuals. They could fancy men 60% and women 40% or they could fancy men 20% and women 80%. What i’m getting at there is no right way to be bisexual.
We aren’t being greedy, we are just being ourselves. Just like everything, we don’t experience life the same so why would we experience sexuality the same.
2. ‘Bisexuality is a transition stage’
When I came out bisexual, it was more than likely assumed I would down the line transform into a raging homosexual. But plot twist, that never happened.
Bisexuality for some has been used as a transition stage. Indivudals feel like coming out as bisexual is more accepted than coming out as gay, lesbian, etc… Which is perfectly fine. If this is how they want to do things, who are we to judge? But for myself and other bisexuals, it’s made a certain few think that it’s just a transition period.
We exists & as far as I’m aware I haven’t changed, im still bisexual.
3. ‘Bisexual people are more likely to cheat’
Because this makes soooo much sense. If you are bisexual, you’re a cheat!!!!
The fact that this is even a thing, just proves who ever fabricated these rumours is an idiot. Cheating is down to that individual, not a sexuality label. If you believe this, have a reality check.
4. ‘Bisexuals are attracted to everyone ‘
… damn. You got me. I have to stay indoors because if I’m let out I just fancy everyone and anyone.
Weirdly, standards still exist even when you are bisexual. The misconception that bisexuals will fancy you is not only big headed but ridiculous as well. I’m bisexual and still not into you.
5. ‘Bisexuals only want sex’
Do I even need to address this one? Ugh.
Just because someone identifies as bisexual, doesn’t mean all they want is sex. How does this even make sense? Because we are attracted to two sexes it means we want to have sex all the time?!?!?
I hope one day I wont have to explain how I’m bisexual with a girlfriend. As society can’t seem to understand that??
A bisexual, with a girlfriend…. What!!?!?! That can’t be happening!!!
All seriousness, I think society is coming to terms with bisexuality. Sure you will find an ignorant soul now & again. But the world is full of them and sadly we can’t always avoid them.
If you identify as bisexual, then don’t let anyone tell you how to identify. If it turns out you fancy men more than women, that’s fine. Do you fancy woman more then men? That’s is also fine. We’ve become to focused on how others identify instead on focusing on ourselves.
We all experience life, gender, sexuality different. So don’t compare your experience to someone else, it will never be the same. Just do you, be you & the world will become an easier place.
The Unite Team- Charl