When you’ve identified in the LGBTQ community for a while, you hear common phrases that you wish didn’t exist. Here are just a few that we have come up with!

1. So when did you turn gay

It’s thought that over night you can suddenly become gay. Its the biggest secret kept in the LGBTQ community but It’s true. The gig is up & the secret is out.

You can go to sleep straight as a pole and wake up with glitter shooting out every where whilst death dropping.

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…. I wish, as it sounds kind of fun. Reality, you don’t ever just turn gay. You know from a young age that something is different & it may take years to figure out what. Whether you identify as trans, gay, lesbian, bisexual or so on. You can’t just turn into this over night.

If anyone asks you this, ask them when they turned straight. It’s the same situation, you are born the way you are & you can’t help being you.


2. I have no issue with you being gay, but…

If there is a but… you have an issue. I hear phrases as such too many times. ‘ I don’t have an issue with lesbians, but I don’t agree with gay men together’

So why’s this? Simple because lesbians have been sexualised to the point that it’s ‘hot’ to see two girls together. If you support lgbtq rights, you support everyone that identifies in that community, you cannot pick and chose who you support due to your preferences.

3. So who’s the man in the relationship?

This one majority of the time is referring to lesbian relationships. I think that the whole point of two women being together… is that there is no man in the relationship. I know, crazy theory!?

There could be someone more masculine than their partner, but it doesn’t mean they are the man in the relationship. The ideology that there needs to be a man in a relationship is ridiculous. Let people be  people & stop asking stupid questions.

4. You don’t look gay

I have experienced this one before and I’m quite baffled that individuals expect someone to look gay? Am I meant to be waving my lgbtq flag high, unless all lgbtq individuals  tattoo ‘I am gay’ on my forehead, I think the expectation for us to look gay is very unrealistic.

LGBTQ individuals are like everyone, we aren’t some magical creature, we are all human’s. 

5. It’s such a shame you’re gay

& it’s such a shame you’re a moron. Moving on, normally this is said to you from someone of the opposite sex, For example, when women state all the hot guys are gay & when the guys say they can turn you straight.

Sadly, these individuals can’t understand that you are LGBTQ. So this means there is no desire towards them, what they also can’t grasp is that how offensive this can come across.

As it yet again makes you be reminded that LGBTQ individuals aren’t taken seriously. It’s not a shame we are this way, it’s a shame your mind is so self absorbed that you believe everyone is for your benefit.

6. Omg you can be my gay best friend

For some reason, it’s the belief anyone gay especially men have extraordinary fashion sense. Which yes, sometimes it can be correct. But the fact you want a gay best friend to say ‘omg I have a gay best friend hehee.’ Is so so wrong.

Your friends should be your friends regardless of sexuality. If your friend happens to be gay, great you have an amazing friend who happens to be gay.

The difference between the two is that you aren’t making a deal out of someone being gay for your personal gain.

7. You’ll like this because you’re gay

& finally. The judgement that anything that is a bit camp you will automatically love.

Because all LGBTQ love the same things and none of us have any personality at all. But more importantly, if you disagree that means your not gay anymore because you don’t fit the stereotype.

Rules are rules, sorry.

It could be completely harmless, but please don’t think that all gay people like the same thing because 100% of the time, we hate what you are suggesting!

And that’s our 7 Common Things You Hear When Identifying In The LGBTQ Community, do you agree? Let us know!

The Unite Team

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