What was ‘Coming out’ like for you?
I never really “came out” one day I just went a family function with a woman instead of a man, introduced them, and that was pretty much it. I blessed to have a family that is really supportive.
What would you say to your younger self if you were to come out again?
I would say please understand how lucky you are that you never had to deal with many of the things other LGBTIQQ youth have to deal with, do not take it for granted and that I have a duty to be a voice for those who feel like they do not have one. I would l also tell myself to be a resource to others who may be struggling with coming out. Be a support system.
What do you feel like society can do to help the youth of the LGBTQ community?
I think they should listen, simple, just listen, you do not have to understand, you do not have to agree, the best thing you can do is listen. So many time our young people just want to be heard. They want for their thoughts, ideas, feelings to be a valid contribution.
You’re all role model to the LGBTQ community but who is your role model within the LGBTQ community?
Wow, my role model, hmmm I love Ellen, My motto is “be un-apologetically you!” I live my life by this, I am unapologetically me always. As women I feel often times we dim our light, we apologise for being too strong or too weak or too smart or not smart enough for being over-sexual or not sexual enough, we must stop doing those things, we must just “BE”. To me, Ellen embodies this. She is who she is authentically, she could have let her sexuality limit her success, she could have dimmed her light. But she did not, instead, she blazed a path for so many of us. I am #teamellen all day!
Onyx Keesha has graced the stage in Lurinda D. Brown’s “Walk Like a Man” and “Sometimes it Snows in Atlanta”. She can also be seen in the titillating web series, “Between Women”, where she plays Allison Young as well as a lead actress in the feature indie films “Church Hurt” and “We Need A Little Christmas”.
Onyx can also be seen in a hosts short films and stage plays. In addition to her successful acting career, Onyx is also a very accomplished director. She has directed numerous shows around the country, including “For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow is Enuf”, “The Vagina Monologues”, and “Aida”. Lately, she has turned her attention to promising original works.
She directed the New York and Atlanta runs of “Sincerely Yours”, a gripping tale about the last moments of a young man’s life. Recently, she directed the Atlanta premiere of the much buzzed about “Only God Can Judge Me” and “The Hole Runs Deep”. Onyx Keesha is host of 1:1 w/ Onyx, an Internet talk show highlighting the accomplishments of entertainers, entrepreneurs and professionals in the community.
She has interviewed such personalities as Kelly Price, Kandi Burress, Derek J, RL from Next and many more. She is also in the process of creating an all new LIVE web series, “It’s O.K. with Onyx Keesha”. Onyx’s mission with her new web show is “Blurring the Lines that Divide Us”.Onyx’s motto has been “It’s OK!” (a clever play on her name). This brief, but powerful, statement has become a rallying cry for her and the people whose lives she has touched.
The phrase means so much more than the simple words would imply. She is telling people that through perseverance, hard work, and faith, they can find their own greatness… as she has.