Coming out is a scary and sometimes daunting process. For some it is natural, but for others it’s something that can be an extremely hard situation. Gwen has happily shared her story to help those who are struggling to come out.
When I was twelve, I started questioning my sexuality. I really struggled, because my primary school was heteronormative, and homophobia was just a thing everyone had.For most of the summer, I couldn’t think of anything else, and started hating myself for it. I thought it was my fault (remember extremely heteronormative childhood), and I was constantly trying to convince myself that I was straight, to the point where I couldn’t lead my normal life because I was hating myself so much for it. I didn’t know about any other sexualities (other than gay and straight), and I was so confused.In the end, it was social media that helped me out. I found so many accounts that were really supportive, and helped me come to terms with my sexuality. Obviously, if you don’t feel comfortable coming out, don’t feel like you’re able to, or even don’t need to, you don’t have to come out, so don’t feel pressured by anyone to do so.But here are some tips that I used:
- If you don’t want to sit down and talk about it, give them a note.
- Make sure your parents are aware of what your sexuality/gender means, it can be awkward trying to explain.
All my family and friends were really supportive of me, but if you’re family are homophobic or trans-phobic, remember, there is an army of people just like you right behind you and we’re not going anywhere.
If you are feeling the same as Gwen, then that’s okay. Figuring out your sexuality can be a very confusing and upsetting time. But just know, sexuality doesn’t define you for who YOU are, no matter what your sexuality is, you’re still you.
The most important thing in life is that you are happy, don’t worry if you can’t figure out if you’re gay, lesbian, trans, pan-sexual and so on… Sexuality can be so fluid that sometimes you can never pin down what you actually define yourself as.
Take a deep breath and live your life to the fullest, your sexuality one day will make sense.