Dating can be daunting, for all of us. A lot of the dating advice you may come across online is often aimed towards heterosexuals but that doesn’t mean we don’t need it just as much!
A certain amount of this advice isn’t even relevant to the LGBT+ community as they can be filled with gender roles and expectations such as ‘The man should pay for the meal’ on a date. So who pays when it’s not simply a man and a woman? As well as this, it can be hard to confide in your family and friends, given that the chances are they are straight. Realistically we can’t expect them to dish out top advice when they have no experience with the subject.
Even so, you could be given all the best LGBT+ dating advice in the world but this isn’t going to guarantee anything! At the end of the day, we’ll tell you what we always tell you – be yourself. There is no point trying to portray yourself as something you’re not, it won’t last and it’ll be near impossible to form a deep connection with someone.
Considering it’s now 2017, I’m sure we’re all familiar to some extent with online dating websites and apps. I for one, found my true love of 2 years now through a dating app and it has completely changed my views on the whole online concept.
And yes you’ll be glad to know it was an app designed specifically for people who are not straight, they do exist!
Some apps where you may find exactly what you’re looking for:
- HER: This app was my saviour. It was previously named ‘Dattch’, designed for lesbian, bisexual and queer women who want to explore their dating options, make friends or simply reading content and keeping up to date on local events.
- Grindr: You could say Grindr is the male equivalent to HER, another global online community where men can connect with one another.
There are many other apps and websites but these are just a couple of examples.
It mightn’t be everyone’s cup of tea but even if all you do is make some friends and talk to others like you, you’d be surprised how much more confident and comfortable you’ll become.
A major importance of online dating is that you can never be too careful of who you are talking to. Being online makes it very easy for someone to catfish you and it’s up to you to take precautions to ensure you are not being catfished.
If you’re not sure what catfishing means, click here!
Catfishing is becoming more common now due to the increase in technology and people using online websites and forums to chat to others.
You may think ‘That would never happen to me’, but trust me, it happens more often than you’d expect! Don’t believe us? Watch Catfish!
If you are skeptical about someones identity, take one of their pictures and reverse Google image search it. This is one of the steps Max and Nev from Catfish often do to find out if someone is who they say they are.
A few steps you can take to keep safe while online dating:
- Ensure it’s them: If you’ve been chatting for a while, it’s always a good idea to try see them somewhere else that’s not just their profile picture. Ask them to send a picture of themself on Snapchat, or arrange to speak on Facetime or Skype.
- Safe place: If after some time you arrange to meet in person, always do it in a public place and make sure a friend or family member knows where you are going etc.
- Personal information: It’s a sensible idea to refrain from giving out personal information such as your address until you have met with the person and are confident they are genuine.
We hope this has been of some help to you, if there is anything you want to ask us about please don’t hesitate to contact us!
The Unite Team