Aislinn is one of the founders of Unite, here she shares her story to help those who are going through the same struggles.
I always knew my parents wouldn’t mind at all when the time came to tell them I wasn’t straight. I was fortunate in the sense I never had that dread hanging over me wondering if I’d be thrown out of my house or disowned. But even with that unspoken assurance it was still heavily daunting to think about telling them. Part of you would always think that they’d prefer if you were straight.The moment I came out to my parents wasn’t planned. I was around 16 or 17 and me and my friends met up with my parents on a night out – when drink is involved everything is going to be dramatised. But basically I just blurted it out and started to cry, I’m not even sure why, I suppose just the build of emotion and dread. As expected they took it amazingly and there were no negative vibes. That night I told them I was bisexual – at the time I believed I was but now I realise I’m gay.
That leads me onto talking about the stigma around bisexuality. I can see where it stems from because for me being bisexual actually was a phase and that’s one of the main negative things bisexuals get accused of and for being ‘confused’. My view on it is that we’re all brought up to be attracted to the opposite sex only, so when you’re in your young teens you’re trying to fit in and try dating or seeing people of the opposite sex who you may not feel any connection with.
So naturally when you start to realise you like the same sex you begin to go through sort of a transition phase and this is where many people including me when I was younger, use the term bisexual. People don’t understand that this can happen but people also CAN be attracted to all genders, sexuality is so fluid and personally I wish labels didn’t exist cause at the end of it all we’re all people just loving other people.